I had a wonderful conversation with my boyfriend the other day about relationships. It is hard for women to understand relationships unless they have the insight of the other party. Too often we don’t understand each other’s thoughts or intentions. We need to open that door of communication and we can learn a lot about each other that will be beneficial.
For far too long as women we have suffered heartache and pain due to a failing relationship. We come away broken and hurt but we never try to find out what a good relationship looks like. We don’t communicate well and we allow things to be done to us that are less than desirable. We compromise ourselves, we view ourselves as not deserving, and let’s be real we lower our standards just to have a companion.
Why do we do this? I am no expert but I have had my share of questionable relationships. I decided to figure this thing out instead of continuing to go down the same path each time looking for different results. My boyfriend has taught me a lot about relationships from a man’s point of view. It was enlightening! It has given us a firm foundation for our relationship to grow on. We both love God and that is the most important ingredient to have.
God made relationships so the concept is wonderful, when it lines up to what God intended it to be. It’s when we decide that we know better than God and go our own way and pick a mate that is not quite suitable for us that we see the problems grow.
One of the things that I have learned about relationships is mostly about me not the other person. You have to know you, love you, and understand who you are in order to share your life with someone else. Once you get a true sense of who you are then you are better equipped to recognize the best mate for you. How do you figure YOU out? Once again go to the source of your creation – God. If you are a believer in God then you will soon realize that all things go right back to Him.
So instead of trying everything under the sun to figure out the right partner for you, let God do it. It is much easier, more exciting, and very enjoyable! If you have been in a dead-end relationship and are now free of it, then take some time to evaluate yourself. Take time to understand and love you before you seek another relationship.
The results will amaze you and then you will be ready to engage in a relationship again. Give yourself time for you, and your dreams, and aspirations and at the right time God will let you see new possibilities for a relationship.
Trust me on this one, God will not send you any junk!
The Butterfly Journey – Lisa
