Tag: Reflection

encouragement, self-discovery, self-examination, the butterfly journey

Worry About Yourself

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I had to share this funny video with you.  It was one of the cutest videos I had seen in a long time posted on Facebook!  Although the message was sweet and innocent coming from a 3-year-old little girl, it had some profound content that I thought worthy of blogging about.

The scene is a sweet, cute little girl in the backseat of the family car trying desperately to hook the belts to her car seat.  (This is a daunting task as I have tried many times and failed to buckle my grandchildren in).  Her dad says, “you want me to help you?”  And with the sweet small voice she says, “no I can do it myself.”  As she continues to struggle with it her dad asks again, “what do you want me to do?”  She so innocently says, “worry bout yo self!”  Well you could have bought me for a wooden nickel!  It was too cute!

But how much message is really in those little words?  Worry about yourself, could be a nice way of saying mind your business, but I didn’t take it that way.  I look at it as saying we can always find something wrong or we know how to correct someone else’s issues but we can’t even see our own issues.  Isn’t that the truth?  It is always easier it seems to let someone know what they are doing wrong or not addressing in their lives, than it is to understand our own shortcomings or bad choices.

That is why I am learning (you see that I’m learning) to ask God to show me my own issues so that I can work on me and then I can come along side of someone who may be dealing with similar issues and help not hinder.  I never want to be in a position that I can’t see my own stuff, my own issues or where I fall short.  None of us are perfect so there is always something to work on.  I believe staying humble is the best ingredient for being in a position to help people when they need you.

So don’t stop “worrying about people”, but make sure you have the right attitude when you are trying to help them.  Make sure your reasons are pure and if they aren’t then “worry bout yo self and let God do the rest.

Blessings

Lisa

Challenges, change, God, hope, Life Coach

Start from Square One

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Well today marks the first day of our 6-month life makeover challenge!  Woo hoo! I am super excited about all the new beginnings and possibilities to change my life from the place that I am right now into the place that I desire to be in every area of my life! It’s not going to be easy that is why we called it a challenge.  There are some parts of our lives that we will breeze right through, other parts not so much.  But I am committed to seeing the process to the end of the 6-months just to see how strong I really am.

I prayed and thought and thought and prayed about what the first action step should be on this challenge and it dawned on me that in order to begin to change the fabric of our lives we need to really have a clear picture of where we are.  Make sense?  How can we challenge ourselves to makeover areas in our lives if we don’t really focus on where we currently are.

So the first action step is going to be internal.  What do I mean?  Well I mean in your heart; I need you to focus on the inner being of who you are right now.  Look at yourself in your spiritual mirror and take an honest look at yourself.  Where are you?  Reflection on oneself is not something that we do everyday or even at all, but in order for us to move into a new dimension of who we really are supposed to be we must figure out who we are right now!  Are you following me?

I know that I shared this part of my journey with  you many times before, but it stand telling again so you get exactly where I am coming from for this action step.  When I was depressed and started to heal (with the love of God), I asked God why did I end up in this place that I was in?  His response to me was simple, “look in the mirror of your soul and take a close look at your life”.  My life had become a jumbled mess of compromising who I really was, what I believed and my values.  For many reasons I found myself compromising to be liked, to be loved, to fit in, and to please people. But that portrayal of who I thought people wanted me to be was false,it was taxing on the real me. For me it was bittersweet to finally realize what was going on with me; on one hand I could finally make a decision to change and become the real Lisa, on the other hand, I had to face that I had let God down.  And that my friend was the bitter part.

Day 1 Action Step – Find a quiet place and begin to focus on your life, every part of it, the good, the bad and the ugly.  Listen to what your heart is telling you about what your life really looks like.  Some of it may hurt, some may make you proud, but remember there is hope for a brighter future.  Now one thing that I want to make clear is that it all begins and ends with you.  You can’t do this exercise and include others in the process.  If you have deep embedded hurt and unforgiveness that you need to deal with please seek a professional therapist to work those issues out.  One thing that God showed me in my process was ME, no one else, only me, I was responsible for myself – period.  After you have gotten a clear picture of where you are now is the time to begin to vision where you want to be in the next 6-months.  Have a set goal for every area of your life that you want to change.  This will give us a clear measurement of your progress.  If you haven’t purchased a journal to record this journey I suggest that you so today. You are going to be wowed at the end of the challenge about how far you have come and accomplished!

Ready?  Let’s go!

The Butterfly Journey ~ Lisa

God, Life Coach, purpose, reflection, the butterfly journey

Reflection

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I love the picture of the young lady that I have on my blog.  When I saw those pictures of the young lady with the butterfly I knew I had to use it as a part of The Butterfly Journey Ministry.

It was her eyes that captured me.  In them I see her reflecting over her life.  She seems to be pondering the thought that there has to be “more to life” than where I am right now or where I have been.   She is wondering perhaps why did God place her in this world?  What is her purpose?

I imagine that she’s daydreaming about the impact that she would like to leave on the earth.  If you look deeper into her eyes, you can begin to see some pain that she had to endure, some disappointments that have left her a little sad.  If you continue just to stare into her eyes you may start to see yourself.  It may take you to a place within yourself that is asking the same questions or searching for similar answers.

I can tell you I see myself in her a lot and that is why I was drawn to her image.  It was something deeper than just a pretty picture with vibrant colors.  It was a symbol of where my heart was many years ago, reflecting on my life.  Wondering if I had wasted it all away or was there still time to figure out the real me.

Over the course of my journey, I have done a lot of wondering and reflecting, but I don’t waste too much time there, only enough time to allow me to make a decision to make changes.  Just enough time to say, “God, I am ready to be who you created me to be.”  “I want to give back my gifts by using them to make a difference in someone’s life.”  I don’t want to leave this world without touching someone who needs to hear that they are wonderful, beautiful and that you (God) love them with an undying and unconditional love!

If you continue to move around in this life at the speed of light, you will never get to a place of being who you are supposed to be.  You will never experience the joys that God wants to give you.  You will never know the “real” you.  And worse yet you will never be able to impact the world around you with the uniqueness that God created you to be.  Seriously, what is holding you back?

Find a quiet place and reflect on where your life is right now.  The world is waiting for YOU and more importantly, God is waiting for YOU to take your rightful place in the world and make an impact that only you can!  Let The Butterfly Journey help you get to that place!

The Butterfly Journey ~ Lisa